One phrase has been appearing more and more in my therapy room recently: "I just don't feel like myself anymore." These are women in their late thirties, early forties and beyond who are struggling to understand what has changed. They're often exhausted, emotionally overwhelmed, anxious, tearful, disconnected from themselves and often from their partners too. Many have noticed a dramatic change in their desire for intimacy, while others are experiencing pain during sex for the first time in...

When people think about erectile dysfunction (ED), they often focus solely on the physical symptoms. However, in my work with both individuals and couples, I see how its impact reaches far beyond the bedroom. Erectile dysfunction can affect confidence, self-esteem, emotional wellbeing, intimacy, and the connection between partners. It can leave people feeling isolated, ashamed, or worried about their relationship, yet it's something that many experience at some point in their lives. The good...

Pain during sex can feel isolating, confusing and deeply emotional. Whether you're experiencing vaginismus yourself or you're supporting a partner who is, understanding what's happening is often the first step towards healing. "Why is this happening to me?" For many people, vaginismus can feel frightening. You may have wondered why your body seems to tense or "shut down" despite wanting intimacy. You may have questioned whether it's psychological, physical, or somehow your fault. The truth...