Couples Therapy: Therapy for Couples Feeling Caught in Conflict, Disconnection & Repeating Patterns
When the same patterns keep playing out in your relationship
You may find yourselves having the same arguments, feeling misunderstood, or drifting further apart even when you both want things to be different.
This can lead to distance, resentment, or a sense of loneliness within the relationship.
What often develops is a pattern between you. One of you may push for closeness or reassurance, while the other pulls away or shuts down. Or you may both feel unheard, caught in a cycle where neither of you feels truly understood.
These patterns can also begin to affect your physical and emotional intimacy. You may notice a loss of desire, differences in libido, or a sense of pressure or distance around sex. At times, this can feel difficult to talk about, but it is often closely connected to the emotional dynamic between you.
My work with couples focuses on understanding and changing the patterns that keep you feeling stuck and disconnected. It is grounded in evidence-based approaches, with Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) at the heart, alongside EMDR and Schema Therapy. I also draw on the Gottman Method where helpful, supporting couples to improve communication, navigate conflict, and better understand the patterns they can find themselves caught in.
In our work together, we slow this pattern down and begin to understand what’s happening underneath not just what you’re arguing about, but what each of you is feeling and needing in those moments. From there, we begin to shift how you respond to each other, creating more safety, understanding, and connection.
The work is collaborative and paced carefully, supporting both partners to feel safe enough to explore what’s difficult, while creating meaningful and lasting change.
If you’re ready to take the next step, you’re welcome to get in touch to arrange an initial conversation.
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