When Jealousy Takes Over
You didn’t ask to feel this way.
It just… shows up. A knot in your stomach when someone else seems happier. That twist of comparison, the anxious checking, the irritation you can’t always explain. Whether it’s in relationships, friendships, at work, or online, jealousy can be uncomfortable, confusing, and sometimes even painful.
Maybe you're ashamed to admit you're feeling it. Maybe you're scared of what it means. Maybe it's already caused conflict, or disconnection, with someone you care about.
Jealousy is often misunderstood. It's not always about envy or control. Sometimes it’s about fear, of being replaced, of not being enough, of losing something or someone important.
You might ask yourself:
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"Why do I feel this way when I should be happy for them?"
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"Why am I so afraid of being left out or left behind?"
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"Is something wrong with me for feeling like this?"
The answer is no, nothing is wrong with you. Jealousy is a human emotion. But when it’s left unspoken or buried in shame, it can start to control your actions and erode your peace.
Therapy can help you understand what's underneath the jealousy, and what it’s trying to protect. At Live Life Happy Therapy, we don’t judge emotions. We get curious about them.
Jealousy often has deeper roots: past wounds, attachment dynamics, unmet needs, stories we carry about being unworthy or unseen. In therapy, we explore these layers together, not to get rid of jealousy, but to understand it. To move from reactivity to reflection. To make space for healing, self-compassion, and more secure relationships.
Together, we’ll work to:
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Identify patterns and triggers
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Separate feeling from fact
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Strengthen your self-worth and emotional regulation
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Build healthier, more trusting relationships — with others and with yourself
You don’t have to fight jealousy alone, or pretend it’s not there. You can work with it, and through it, with support.Your feelings don’t make you flawed. They make you human. If jealousy has been causing tension, pain, or inner conflict, you don’t have to carry it silently. There’s room for all of it here.
Get in Touch with Our Team You don’t have to have it all figured out.
That’s what we’re here for. Whether you're ready to book your first session, have a few questions, or just want to see if we're the right fit, we’d love to hear from you. At Live Life Happy Therapy, our team is here to listen, support, and guide you toward the next step at your own pace.
References
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Parrott, W. G. (1991). The emotional experiences of envy and jealousy. The Psychology of Jealousy and Envy.
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Sharpsteen, D. J. (1995). Jealousy and romantic love: Three tests of a model. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin.
https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167295212004 -
Brené Brown. (2012). The Power of Vulnerability.
https://brenebrown.com
