Setting Boundaries
Learning to Say What You Need
It sounds simple: “Just set boundaries.” But for many of us, that phrase is loaded with fear, guilt, and confusion. What if they get upset? What if they think I’m selfish What if I lose them?
You may have learned to prioritise other people’s comfort over your own needs to avoid conflict, to keep the peace, or because it never felt safe to say no. Maybe you feel like you're always giving… but still not getting what you need. Maybe you're exhausted from being everything to everyone and nothing to yourself.
Boundaries aren’t about being harsh or distant. They’re about honesty, clarity, and care for yourself and your relationships.
Therapy can help you build boundaries with confidence and compassion.
At Live Life Happy Therapy, we understand that setting boundaries can feel unfamiliar, even scary, especially if you've spent years people-pleasing, avoiding conflict, or trying to earn love by over giving.
We create a safe, supportive space to explore:
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Why boundaries have felt hard or unsafe in the past
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What healthy boundaries actually look like, in real life, not just in theory
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How to speak up without shutting down
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How to hold your limits without losing yourself in guilt or fear
Learning to set boundaries is a process. It doesn’t happen all at once. But step by step, you can begin to choose yourself — not because you don’t care about others, but because you’re learning to care for yourself, too. Boundaries are not walls. They are doors, ones you get to open and close with intention. It’s okay to take up space. You’re allowed to say no.
You’re allowed to ask for what you need. You’re allowed to protect your peace, and still be a kind, loving person
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If setting boundaries feels hard, confusing, or impossible, we’re here to help. Get in Touch with Our Team You don’t have to have it all figured out.
That’s what we’re here for. Whether you're ready to book your first session, have a few questions, or just want to see if we're the right fit, we’d love to hear from you. At Live Life Happy Therapy, our team is here to listen, support, and guide you toward the next step at your own pace.
References
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Brown, B. (2012). Daring Greatly.
https://brenebrown.com/book/daring-greatly -
Cloud, H., & Townsend, J. (1992). Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No.
https://www.boundariesbooks.com -
Linehan, M. M. (2014). DBT® Skills Training Manual.
https://www.guilford.com/books/DBT-Skills-Training-Manual/Marsha-Linehan/9781572307810
