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Live Life Happy Therapy
In-Person Derbyshire & Staffordshire | Online Via Zoom
Therapy for when relationships feel harder than they should
Hi, I’m Nicola, a UKCP-accredited relationship psychotherapist.
EMDR, EFT & Schema Therapy
I work with individuals and couples to understand and break free from the patterns that keep repeating in your relationships.
You find yourself stuck in patterns that don’t change whether it’s people-pleasing until you feel resentful, or the same arguments playing out again and again.
You overthink, over-give, or try to keep things steady, yet still things blow up and you end up feeling unseen, misheard, or not quite “enough.” Things escalate quickly, small moments turning into conflict, leaving you both hurt, frustrated, and disconnected.
Nothing really shifts. And over time, it starts to take its toll.
Relationships begin to feel exhausting, confusing, or painfully distant.
Often, these patterns have deeper roots, shaped by earlier experiences where your needs were not fully seen, understood, or met. Over time, this can also affect your experience of intimacy and sex. Showing up as a loss of desire, differences in libido, or a sense of pressure or anxiety around performance.
At times, it can feel as though you’ve become disconnected not only from your partner, but from yourself. In our work together, we begin to make sense of how these patterns developed and why they continue. From there, we work to shift the emotional experiences that drive them, allowing you to respond differently rather than being pulled into the same cycles.
My work is grounded in EMDR, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), and Schema Therapy.
Together, we make sense of how these patterns developed and why they continue, while working to shift the emotional experiences that drive them. Over time, this leads to a stronger sense of self, more open and honest communication, and a greater capacity for emotional and physical intimacy. As the work deepens, you may begin to feel more secure, more connected, and more at ease, both within yourself and in your relationships.
This work is an investment in yourself in your emotional wellbeing, your relationships, and the way you experience your life
Sessions are available in person in Derbyshire and Staffordshire and online across the UK and Europe.
Prices
Individual & Couples Therapy - £110 per 50-minute session
You may recognise some of this
Patterns that keep repeating
You find yourself stuck in the same cycles in your relationships overthinking, reacting, pulling away, or trying harder but feeling like nothing really changes. Even with insight, the pattern keeps coming back.
Feeling overwhelmed or shut down
At times, emotions feel intense and difficult to manage. At others, there’s a sense of numbness or disconnection. You may appear to be coping on the outside, while internally things feel much harder.
Wanting closeness but struggling with it
You long for connection, yet something holds you back. You might notice sensitivities around rejection, trust, or feeling “not enough,” making relationships feel both important and difficult at the same time.
Disconnection in intimacy and sex
You may notice a loss of desire, differences in libido, or a sense of pressure or anxiety around intimacy. At times, it can feel confusing or isolating, affecting not only your relationship, but how you feel about yourself.
